Who isn’t on some level fearful or resistant to love?
It is only natural that a fear of love can develop in anybody, you, your sister, even the person next to you. Maybe you're afraid of being loved, or you're afraid of falling in love. Whatever the case, and whatever your past experiences that may have caused this fear, you can turn your fear into love.
Connecting to Love: Day 5 ~ Fear of Love
"Simply Loving
ACTION:
It is only natural that a fear of love can develop in anybody, you, your sister, even the person next to you. Maybe you're afraid of being loved, or you're afraid of falling in love. Whatever the case, and whatever your past experiences that may have caused this fear, you can turn your fear into love.
Connecting to Love: Day 5 ~ Fear of Love
Love. Ah, love. Did you know that more than half of humanity does not open its heart for fear of rejection?
Did you know that more than half of all people wait to be loved so that they can love in return?
Did you know that a great number of people stay with their partners because they feel loved, even though they do not love?
Think about this.
Imagine that one person loves another.
Imagine that the other person does not reciprocate this love.
Imagine that instead of continuing to vibrate in that rejection, the first person simply loved. He simply focused on the love he felt. He simply focused on the force of his own vibration without expecting anything in return. What would happen?
What would happen is that this person would not feel rejected, and therefore he would not diminish his own love and live in restriction.
No. He would love.
He would simply love. And that would lift his energy in such a way that eventually he might even end up attracting true love.
Did you know that more than half of all people wait to be loved so that they can love in return?
Did you know that a great number of people stay with their partners because they feel loved, even though they do not love?
Think about this.
Imagine that one person loves another.
Imagine that the other person does not reciprocate this love.
Imagine that instead of continuing to vibrate in that rejection, the first person simply loved. He simply focused on the love he felt. He simply focused on the force of his own vibration without expecting anything in return. What would happen?
What would happen is that this person would not feel rejected, and therefore he would not diminish his own love and live in restriction.
No. He would love.
He would simply love. And that would lift his energy in such a way that eventually he might even end up attracting true love.
Jesus"
~ The Book of Light - Ask and Heaven Will Answer,
Alexandra Solnado
Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here. When we were born we came into a loving world. But somewhere along the way many people lose the uncompromising love they showed as children and learn to become fearful. Fear takes over and traps them. Their spiritual journey is stopped in its tracks. Fear leads to people conducting their lives in immoral or corrupt ways.
The attitudes and behaviors we witnessed and experienced as children often subconsciously shape the ways we think and act as adults. Having someone love us or look at us differently from how we were looked at as kids presents a unique challenge that few of us anticipate in our adult relationships.
Throughout your life, this cruel and conniving thought process will try to lure you away from finding love. Identifying it will help you to stop seeing it as reality or your own point of view. Remember that letting go of your inner critic means letting go of an old identity that, although unpleasant, can also feel safe in its familiarity. Breaking from this critic will rouse anxiety, but it poses a battle well worth fighting. Powering through this anxiety and refuting your inner critic at every turn will allow you to uncover and become your truest self.
It may have felt threatening, even , to open up to someone as a child or show our feelings in our family, but these same defenses are no longer constructive to us in our current relationships. Perhaps, pretending we don't care helped guard us from the pain of feeling neglected or invisible, however that same attitude will make it hard to accept loving feelings that are extended to us today. As we learn how adaptations that served us in our childhood are harmful to us in the present, we can act against these almost instinctive behaviors and, over time, become who we want to be in our relationships.
We can start challenging ourselves to accept love – to return a loving look, rather than turn away in embarrassment. We can approach our defenses with curiosity and compassion and slowly start to change our part that limits our capacity for love.
DAILY QUOTE:~ The Book of Light - Ask and Heaven Will Answer,
Alexandra Solnado
Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here. When we were born we came into a loving world. But somewhere along the way many people lose the uncompromising love they showed as children and learn to become fearful. Fear takes over and traps them. Their spiritual journey is stopped in its tracks. Fear leads to people conducting their lives in immoral or corrupt ways.
The attitudes and behaviors we witnessed and experienced as children often subconsciously shape the ways we think and act as adults. Having someone love us or look at us differently from how we were looked at as kids presents a unique challenge that few of us anticipate in our adult relationships.
Throughout your life, this cruel and conniving thought process will try to lure you away from finding love. Identifying it will help you to stop seeing it as reality or your own point of view. Remember that letting go of your inner critic means letting go of an old identity that, although unpleasant, can also feel safe in its familiarity. Breaking from this critic will rouse anxiety, but it poses a battle well worth fighting. Powering through this anxiety and refuting your inner critic at every turn will allow you to uncover and become your truest self.
It may have felt threatening, even , to open up to someone as a child or show our feelings in our family, but these same defenses are no longer constructive to us in our current relationships. Perhaps, pretending we don't care helped guard us from the pain of feeling neglected or invisible, however that same attitude will make it hard to accept loving feelings that are extended to us today. As we learn how adaptations that served us in our childhood are harmful to us in the present, we can act against these almost instinctive behaviors and, over time, become who we want to be in our relationships.
We can start challenging ourselves to accept love – to return a loving look, rather than turn away in embarrassment. We can approach our defenses with curiosity and compassion and slowly start to change our part that limits our capacity for love.
"I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not be who does not feel afraid, but who conquers that fear" ~ Nelson Mandela
ACTION:
Focus on the words of Jesus above.
Work on conquering your fear, keeping what you've learned in mind. It won't happen overnight. In fact, you shouldn't try to make it disappear at once, or you will overwhelm yourself. Face your fear as much as possible over a long period of time until it no longer is a fear for you anymore.
Have confidence in yourself and be sure to love yourself.
Be yourself. People will notice if you're trying to be someone else. The best thing you can be is yourself.
Don't over-think - use your heart.
Have confidence in yourself and be sure to love yourself.
Be yourself. People will notice if you're trying to be someone else. The best thing you can be is yourself.
Don't over-think - use your heart.
Write in a daily journal your fears to love. Write the affirmation: "I love and I am loved" 21 times.
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