CONNECTING TO LOVE ~ DAY #14

The Valentine’s Day is today. Time to think about those we love. Even more importantly, time to consider what it means to truly love another.

Connecting to Love: Day 14 ~ Twin Souls

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Love is a strong affection, or fond feeling, towards a person or thing. 

We can understand love is the uplifting experience of joy, ecstasy, fulfillment, contentment, delight, and abandon. More than anything else, the highest expression of true love is trust. Indeed, trust is love’s sweetest gift. That is because trust gives rise to an experience of freedom and space. In fact, trust is the powerful experience of spiritual freedom within the context of human relationship. Trust is both reason of love and result of love. When we permit ourselves to trust deeply, we are letting another human being into our heart and into our soul. We have accepted the good intentions of another so deeply that we allow them to step so close to us that we cannot protect ourselves any longer. Each and everyone wants such partner whom he can love and trust. 

To love someone is to greatly admire or respect them for their values. (the things a person chooses to value can be himself, his convictions, virtues, appearance, abilities, friends, personal possessions, or all of the above).
Any relationship works only when there is a good quality of understanding. When you start a relationship, you should accept the flaws and, at the same time, try and understand your partner with his/her imperfections.To make a relationship strong and lasting both love and trust is necessary. We 
should make such relationship where the freedom and happiness will exists.

While in love, you forget yourself and start living for other person. You get concerned about what s/he is thinking, how s/he is responding to you, and whether or not s/he likes you. It is very important not to forget yourself.
Thomas Merton wrote in "No Man Is an Island": “The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, than we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them”
Believe that you are complete - there is no person, thing or moment that can complete you. The moment you shift yourself to this frequency, the more likely you are to attract a person and a life that is as complete as you.
The status of “in a relationship” should not reflect a dependency on someone else, but rather, the power of togetherness.

According Mignon McLaughlin "You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy."
When you feel complete within yourself, you attract someone just like yourself. But the journey starts with you - it is imperative that you love yourself, because without love for yourself, you will not be able to identify anything as valuable and as a result, you will not be able to love or be loved.

Remember, no one is ever going to love you more than you love yourself. Healthy relationships occur between two people who are comfortable with themselves, in addition to one another. Love only develops after making your own happiness a top priority.
If you're given the chance to love and be loved, take it. No matter how difficult it is, no matter what you have to do to make it happen, let go of your fears and let love enter...

A final note - for many single people, Valentine’s Day, and the accompanying media focus on romantic relationships, can magnify feelings of loneliness and lack. Those who are in a relationship may feel stress about planning a special evening out or finding the ideal gift. If you are experiencing emotional pain stemming from your thoughts about your relationships, it can be helpful to recall the timeless wisdom taught by of many of the world’s great spiritual traditions - Your essential nature is pure love and pure happiness.

My wish is a loving day for all and 

that you make this day the most fulfilling it can be...

DAILY QUOTE:

"Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies".

 ~ Aristotle

ACTION:

Give thanks for the relationships that didn’t work out, embrace the lessons you learned, be thankful for the personal growth, and know in your heart that you are always being prepared for the most supportive, loving relationships to enter your life.

Bring to mind someone you love. Feel the reality of your love - know that you are loving.  Feel a perfect love flowing through an imperfect person. Feel your thoughts calming, your mood improving, and your heart opening to others. Absorb the benefits of recognizing and trusting in the lovingness of your heart.

Write in a daily journal a list of the activities that you and your partner enjoy doing together and choose one to do this day.

Make a list of what do you truly love and appreciate about the person you love, or if you are single, the person of your dreams.

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DAY 13 «  CONNECTING TO LOVE  »  DAY 15

 

CONNECTING TO LOVE ~ DAY #13

Exist one kind of love that  without him we can't  live - from and to Mother Earth. Today I suggest a celebration of  Love of our home Planet Mother Earth. 

Connecting to Love: Day 13 ~ Mother Earth Love

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The Earth provides us with all we need to exist and asks for nothing in return.
We are all part of the environment and what we do to the environment, we also do to ourselves, as well as to our future generations.

John Muir wrote “Keep close to Nature’s heart, yourself; and break clear away, once in a while, and climb a mountain or spend a week in the woods. Wash your spirit clean. ... Everybody needs beauty as well as bread, places to play in and pray in, where nature may heal and give strength to body and soul.”

According Thich Nhat Hanh "You carry Mother Earth within you.

She is not outside of you. Mother Earth is not just your environment. In that insight of inter-being, it is possible to have real communication with the Earth, which is the highest form of prayer. In that kind of relationship you have enough love, strength and awakening in order to change your life. Changing is not just changing the things outside of us. First of all we need the right view that transcends all notions including of being and non-being, creator and creature, mind and spirit. That kind of insight is crucial for transformation and healing.

Fear, separation, hate and anger come from the wrong view that you and the Earth are two separate entities, the Earth is only the environment. You are in the centre and you want to do something for the Earth in order for you to survive. That is a dualistic way of seeing. So to breathe in and be aware of your body and look deeply into it and realise you are the Earth and your consciousness is also the consciousness of the Earth. Not to cut the tree not to pollute the water, that is not enough.

When we recognise the virtues, the talent, the beauty of Mother Earth, something is born in us, some kind of connection, love is born. We want to be connected. That is the meaning of love, to be at one. When you love someone you want to say I need you, I take refuge in you. You do anything for the benefit of the Earth and the Earth will do anything for your wellbeing."

DAYLY QUOTE:

"Where there is love there is life." 

~ Mahatma Gandhi

ACTION:

Think about all gifts (Love) you received from Mother Earth.

Be grateful for all her Love and repeat:
"My whole being sends you constant gratitude, eternally, for your beauty, your awesomeness, 
Thanks to Mother Earth, which sustains us. 
Thanks to the sun, that to gives  us their light and heat. 
Thanks to the rivers and lakes, which supply us with water.
Thanks to all herbs, which furnish medicines for the cure of our diseases.
I give myself to you, to protect you, to love you, to honour you in every way I can."

Show your love for our Mother Earth:
- Eat healthy, with less meat and sugar, and more fruits and vegetables
- Buy organic cotton clothing, fruits and vegetables, and other goods
- Cut your consumption, and recycle everything you can
- Use environmentally friendly cleaning products in your home
- Strive to eliminate plastic from your life
- Take personal responsibility for the energy you use each day
- Stop using pesticides
- Educate yourself about the environmental concerns...

Write in a daily journal a list of gifts you received from Mother Earth and a list of what you can do for Her.

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DAY 12 «  CONNECTING TO LOVE  »  DAY 14

 

CONNECTING TO LOVE ~ DAY #12

Everything in life is based on faith. You love by faith just as you breathe by faith and just as you walk by faith.

Connecting to Love: Day 12 ~ Faith

Faith is the foundation for self-love, no matter what you believe.

There are no mistakes in the universe and you must believe we live in a benevolent universe. You have to trust that you will receive support for your dreams and passions, just as you honor those dreams and passions of the people you love.

Believing in something opens up your soul to the beauty of belief and trust. It will build your intuition and help you make decisions based on your intuition. 

You trust that your support of others will be reciprocated, directly or indirectly, and find that although unnecessary, your willingness to sacrifice your desires for the sake of theirs, makes anything possible in your relationship.

When you explore your spirituality it will also take you on a journey to learning things about yourself and those new thoughts, feelings, passions, and raw emotions will make you appreciate yourself for being authentically you.

The apostle Paul gives us an excellent description:

Love is patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud, never haughty or selfish or rude. Love does not demand its own way. It is not irritable or touchy. It does not hold grudges and will hardly even notice when others do it wrong.

All the special gifts and powers from God will someday come to an end, but love goes on forever.
If you love someone you will be loyal to him no matter what the cost. You will always believe in him, always expect the best of him, and always stand your ground in defending him.

DAILY QUOTE:

“Believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it.”

~ Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

ACTION:
Make a list of all the individuals you did not like and begin to love them by faith.
Start loving by faith and follow that flow and become part of a Revolution of Love.

You can do the next exercise:
Close your eyes, make a deep and smooth breath, focus in your heart area, imagine one of the persons of your list, visualize a light connecting both hearts, the love flows between the two hearts. You feel thankful for loving this person. Remain in this feeling and imagine another person of your list arrived and repeat like above.
You can continue with all list or make the exercise in another day.

Write in a daily journal a list of persons you don't like.

Write the affirmation: "With all my heart I can Love all persons".

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DAY 11  «  CONNECTING TO LOVE  »  DAY 13

CONNECTING TO LOVE ~ DAY #11

As rational individuals, we can only naturally love someone we already trust. Trust is a key in any relation and do not need to convince anyone to prove it.

Connecting to Love: Day 11 ~ Trust

Trust, means that you place confidence in someone to be honest with you, faithful to you, keep promises, vows and confidences and not abandon you.

Trust precedes love. Every type of relationship is anchored on our ability to be open and share ourselves with others.
Trusting in love does not mean assuming that someone will love you. It means confidence in the fundamentally loving nature of every person, and in the wholesome power of your own lovingness to protect you and touch the heart of others.
Trust needs to be combined with a willingness to forgive and grows best in an environment of acceptance and love. Trusting grows in relationships over time because as you spend time together with someone you build knowledge, understanding and authenticity.
We use trust to gauge our relationship with others, and in the process, we figure out how much we are willing to give of ourselves to others.
Trust, routes us back to the reason we built the relationship establishing a lifelong connection with others.
A long lasting relationship is very easy to establish if we put the spirit of trust and love in our hearts.because love and trust is the requirement in a relationship to make it lasting. Trust is both reason of love and result of love. To make a relationship strong and lasting both love and trust is necessary.

Trust is the powerful experience of spiritual freedom within the context of human relationship. When we permit ourselves to trust deeply, we are letting another human being into our heart and into our soul. This love, based on trust, is a sacred world of boundless freedom and infinite space. No fear whatsoever of loss or betrayal. This love means "I’m always with you, forever".

DAILY QUOTE:

"Heart doesn’t know what doubt is, heart doesn’t know what believe is – heart simply knows trust." ~ Osho

ACTION:

Ask yourself questions like: What is important to me in this relationship? Trusting in love, what seems right to do?

Bring to mind someone you love. Trust in the lovingness of your heart and feel the reality of your love.
Think about the affirmation “I trust you”.

Write in a daily journal the affirmation: "I trust in Love". 

Make a list of the reasons you trust on love of others.

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DAY 10  «  CONNECTING TO LOVE  » DAY 12

CONNECTING TO LOVE ~ DAY #10

Many persons know how to give love, but many more undermine their relationships by never having learned how to accept it. We don't always realize the ways in which we reject appreciation and affection, help and guidance from others.

Connecting to Love: Day 10 ~ Accepting Love

According John Welwood "There is a secret about human love that is commonly overlooked: Receiving it is much more scary and threatening than giving it. How many times in your life have you been unable to let in someone's love or even pushed it away? Much as we proclaim the wish to be truly loved, we are often afraid of that, and so find it difficult to open to love or let it all the way in."

Giving love is one thing. Getting it is another, and altogether different, thing. Accepting and taking in support, appreciation and encouragement can be very difficult for some people.
For whatever the reason, some people struggle to accept love. Many people are afraid to love because they are afraid of getting hurt or they're afraid their not good enough or they're afraid they aren't capable of love themselves or they're afraid or reasons that are uniquely their own.
Whether it be an intimate relationship, a friendship, or a family relationship, it is important to accept the declaration of love at face value. If you are pushing aside the gift of their love for you because you are afraid that they do not mean it, then you prevent them from having the chance to prove that they do. It also might push them away from you, so that if you change your mind it may be too late.

Learn how to let in the love that is constantly around us, coming toward us, Simply open your heart, live in the moment and cherish the fact that other people care so deeply about you that you are connected, needed, wanted, and included in the affairs and lives of others. Being open and receptive to the love from others can be learned with practice. Let down some of those defenses and pride and let others know that you enjoy their deep care and support for you.
Acceptance means that be open to love in all its forms. Remember that by accepting the love that is given to you, you are not only doing something good for yourself, but you are giving a gift to the person who offered the love to you.DAILY QUOTE:

"Most People Need Love And Acceptance A Lot More Than They Need Advice.” ~ Bob Goff

ACTION:
Ask yourself: Is it difficult for you to accept kind gestures, gifts, or compliments from others? Do you struggle with accepting love?

Receiving love is also about expressing love. So, Show love - Kiss your spouse and children, hug your friends, compliment your colleagues, say friendly and complimentary things to the persons you find. Do this regularly.

Write in a daily journal why is difficult to accept love.
Write the affirmation: "I Accept Love in all forms"

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DAY 9 «  CONNECTING TO LOVE  » DAY 11

 

CONNECTING TO LOVE ~ DAY #9

Whether or not you consider yourself to be a grateful person, there is always an opportunity for introspection and growth.

Connecting to Love: Day 9 ~ Grateful

Gratitude, thankfulness, gratefulness, or appreciation is a feeling or attitude in acknowledgment of a benefit that one has received or will receive.
Living a state of perpetual gratitude liberate yourself from limiting self-doubt and allow love to flow freely and effortlessly into your life, creating a calm, cool confidence to stride towards your dreams.
we can deliberately cultivate gratitude, and can increase our well-being and happiness by doing so. People are generally happier when they have gratitude in their hearts.

Becoming more loving of those we love can be glorious or a chore. Instead of being a complainer, express gratitude for all of the people in your life and become a listener. We should be thankful for the wonderful blessings that are ours and for the tremendous opportunities we have. We can be thankful to our parents, family, friends, and teachers. We should express appreciation to everyone who has assisted us in any way.
Gratitude is a powerful attitude to help strengthen relationships. The grateful person finds happiness in the everyday and it attracts others into their joy, their loving-kindness.
Expressing gratitude can bring a positive and loving feeling into our everyday lives. It not only lifts our spirits when we’re down, it brings joy and inner peace into our hearts and allows us to tap into a well of happiness that dwells deep within our core.
The benefits of gratitude include deeper love connections to happiness, and improved physical and mental health.
If you practice gratitude, you will eventually become more grateful.

Expressing gratitude is one of the simplest things we can do for ourselves that is completely free and within our grasp. We need only make the conscious choice to express it…to make it a habit.

DAYLY QUOTE:

“Piglet noticed that even though he had a Very Small Heart, it could hold a rather large amount of Gratitude.” 

 ~ A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh

ACTION:
Spend a little time every day counting your blessings however little you feel you have. Be grateful for everything, even the difficult times because you learn from good and bad and gain strength by overcoming adversity.

"Thank you" to someone for what they've done for you, what they've inspired in you, or maybe even just for being a great friend, roommate, coworker, driver or the waiter.

I invite you to practice gratitude daily. Make it a habit, in the morning when you wake and at night before you sleep.

Write in a daily journal the affirmation:

"I have so much in life to be Thankful for"

Write a list of your blessings and a list of gratitude (things, persons, etc that you re grateful).

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DAY 8 «  CONNECTING TO LOVE  » DAY 10 

 

CONNECTING TO LOVE ~ DAY #8

When you're hurt by someone you love and trust, you might become angry, sad or confused. Love is a necessary precursor to being able to forgive.

Connecting to Love: Day 8 ~ Forgiving

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Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness.

We often think of forgiveness as an act of mercy or compassion extended to someone who wronged us, whether you are trying to forgive others, forgive yourself.
Forgiving yourself is a crucial element of your welfare. Forgiving others, however, is just as important to getting along in both personal relationships and society at large.

According Steve Maraboli “Love is forgiving, accepting, moving on, embracing, and all encompassing. And if you’re not doing that for yourself, you cannot do that with anyone else.”

Though forgiveness can help repair a damaged relationship, it doesn’t obligate you to reconcile with the person who harmed you, or release them from legal accountability.
People who feel forgiving don't only feel more positive toward someone who hurt them. They are also more likely to want to volunteer and donate money to charity, and they feel more connected to other people in general.
Forgiving involves letting go of deeply held negative feelings.
We are the ones who receive the most benefit from forgiveness, not the other person.
Forgiveness brings the forgiver peace of mind and frees him or her from corrosive anger.
Forgiving others releases us from anger and allows us to receive the healing we need, spares us from the consequences of living out of an unforgiving heart, and makes us happier.

Forgiveness improves our health - when we dwell on grudges, our blood pressure and heart rate spike; when we forgive, our stress levels drop, and people who are more forgiving are protected from the negative health effects of stress. 

DAYLY QUOTE:

“Without forgiveness, we remain tethered to the person who harmed us... Until we can forgive the person who harmed us, they will hold the keys to our happiness, they will be our jailor.” 

~ Desmond & Mpho Tutu, The Book of Forgiving

ACTION:
If you are willing to forgive but  you have difficulty to forgive yourself and forgive others, from today repeat the following, every time you want by:
«Today I have gained a better understanding of forgiving  others.
 I fully forgive from my heart. 
 I forgive them and I forgive me for hurting others out of  my own hurt  and to heal my relationships with others.
 All forgiveness and healing is possible.» 

Write in a daily journal who you need forgive and why. also write who you need his forgiveness and why.

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DAY 7 «  CONNECTING TO LOVE  » DAY 9

 

CONNECTING TO LOVE ~ DAY #7

The best exercise for the soul is giving.

Giving is one of the most powerful principles of all time. Do you actually do it?

Connecting to Love: Day 7 ~ Giving Love

Giving may refer to "gift", the transfer of something without the expectation of receiving something in return.
Giving is a part of human nature. We enjoy seeing the other person smile, we enjoy helping someone else in some small way.

Anyone and everyone has something they can offer one another. Even without any material gift to offer, sharing your ideas can have immense personal benefits. Ideas can transform others greatly.
By giving out what you have without expecting anything in return, you start living a meaningful life. You find yourself in better health and peace and you achieve more happiness.
Giving is a wealth habit and like all the other wealth habits must be given unconditionally without any expectation of a reciprocal action from the receiver.
Helping others reduces self-centeredness, promotes good health, reduces fears, enables us to make good use of our potential, and helps us find meaning, fulfillment, and purpose.

There is tremendous power that comes with the act of giving, where you simply give from your heart.
When you give from your heart, you give with no expectations. You give only because you want to give, because you want to share what you have and because you want to help somebody.

DAYLY QUOTE:

"Love grows by giving.

The Love we give away is te only Love we keep.

The only way to retain LOVE is to give it away."

~ Elbert Hubbard

ACTION:

Think about all gifts you received today and all you gave.

Close your eyes, make a deep and smooth breath, focus in your heart area, imagine you telling your subconscious mind that you truly care and want to share what you have. You say that you don't care if you don't get anything in return, you don't care if no one notices or if no one thanks you. Imagine you giving a small thing for someone (you know or not), see his happiness, how her are grateful. Feel how you are happy  and grateful too. Commit yourself - all days, all time - to give more love for everyone. Remain in this feeling. Slowly open your eyes. 

Write in a daily journal a list of gifts you received today (material or not - may be a discount in supermarket, a gift, a kind word, a caress....) and a list of what you gave.

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DAY 6 «  CONNECTING TO LOVE  »  DAY 8

 

CONNECTING TO LOVE ~ DAY #6

No matter how long we may live, we'll never stop learning, so why not learn to having love always in our life all the time?!

Connecting to Love: Day 6 ~ Learn to Love

Like I wrote on previous day,  we born with Love, other negative states we learned here. When we were born we came into a loving world, but somewhere along the way many people lose the uncompromising love they showed as children and learn to become distasteful. Their spiritual journey is stopped in its tracks and people conducting their lives in immoral or corrupt ways.

Every minute of every day brings new opportunities to learn something we've never known before.

Learning to love leads to a growing acceptance of our limitations, our inability to change others, and with that comes satisfaction in simply doing our part, the best we can. 

We can only learn to love by loving.
Sustaining love is love that is devoted to learning to love – your partner, your kids, your parents, your siblings – all of the most important people in your life. Sustaining love is the net we need to catch us when the altered state of love beings to fade.

Sustaining love motivates us to work toward creating a climate of love -one that is calm, reasonable ,and respectful. Respecting our separateness is the foundation of human connectedness. Without respect, closeness is impossible.

Once you've been reduced to love, you'll have no trouble establishing and maintaining good, healthy relationships with others. 

DAYLY QUOTE:
"No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background or his religion. People learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite."  ~ Nelson Mandela

ACTION:
Notice your love in each and every choice. 
Commit yourself to learn to love all days.
During your moments of quiet, focus on compassion, patience, kindness, gratitude or any thought that makes you feel love.

Write in a daily journal the affirmation: "Everyday I learn  to Love".

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DAY 5 «  CONNECTING TO LOVE  »  DAY 7

 

CONNECTING TO LOVE ~ DAY #5

Who isn’t on some level fearful or resistant to love?
It is only natural that a fear of love can develop in anybody, you, your sister, even the person next to you. Maybe you're afraid of being loved, or you're afraid of falling in love. Whatever the case, and whatever your past experiences that may have caused this fear, you can turn your fear into love.

Connecting to Love: Day 5 ~ Fear of Love

"Simply Loving

Love. Ah, love. Did you know that more than half of humanity does not open its heart for fear of rejection?
Did you know that more than half of all people wait to be loved so that they can love in return?
Did you know that a great number of people stay with their partners because they feel loved, even though they do not love?
Think about this.
Imagine that one person loves another.
Imagine that the other person does not reciprocate this love.
Imagine that instead of continuing to vibrate in that rejection, the first person simply loved. He simply focused on the love he felt. He simply focused on the force of his own vibration without expecting anything in return. What would happen?
What would happen is that this person would not feel rejected, and therefore he would not diminish his own love and live in restriction.
No. He would love.
He would simply love. And that would lift his energy in such a way that eventually he might even end up attracting true love.

Jesus" 
 ~ The Book of Light - Ask and Heaven Will Answer, 
     Alexandra Solnado

Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here. When we were born we came into a loving world. But somewhere along the way many people lose the uncompromising love they showed as children and learn to become fearful. Fear takes over and traps them. Their spiritual journey is stopped in its tracks. Fear leads to people conducting their lives in immoral or corrupt ways.

The attitudes and behaviors we witnessed and experienced as children often subconsciously shape the ways we think and act as adults. Having someone love us or look at us differently from how we were looked at as kids presents a unique challenge that few of us anticipate in our adult relationships.

Throughout your life, this cruel and conniving thought process will try to lure you away from finding love. Identifying it will help you to stop seeing it as reality or your own point of view. Remember that letting go of your inner critic means letting go of an old identity that, although unpleasant, can also feel safe in its familiarity. Breaking from this critic will rouse anxiety, but it poses a battle well worth fighting. Powering through this anxiety and refuting your inner critic at every turn will allow you to uncover and become your truest self.

It may have felt threatening, even , to open up to someone as a child or show our feelings in our family, but these same defenses are no longer constructive to us in our current relationships. Perhaps, pretending we don't care helped guard us from the pain of feeling neglected or invisible, however that same attitude will make it hard to accept loving feelings that are extended to us today. As we learn how adaptations that served us in our childhood are harmful to us in the present, we can act against these almost instinctive behaviors and, over time, become who we want to be in our relationships.

We can start challenging ourselves to accept love – to return a loving look, rather than turn away in embarrassment. We can approach our defenses with curiosity and compassion and slowly start to change our part that limits our capacity for love.

DAILY QUOTE:

"I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not be who does not feel afraid, but who conquers that fear" ~ Nelson Mandela

ACTION:

Focus on the words of Jesus above.

Work on conquering your fear, keeping what you've learned in mind. It won't happen overnight. In fact, you shouldn't try to make it disappear at once, or you will overwhelm yourself. Face your fear as much as possible over a long period of time until it no longer is a fear for you anymore.
Have confidence in yourself and be sure to love yourself.
Be yourself. People will notice if you're trying to be someone else. The best thing you can be is yourself. 
Don't over-think - use your heart.

Write in a daily journal your fears to love. Write the affirmation: "I love and I am loved" 21 times.

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